GRATITUDE – Written By Doneane Beckcom

This whole summer, since July 4th weekend, has been a downer for me. I have been sick with a chronic sinus infection ever since then, been on way too many rounds of medication, my birthday sucked, my sweet sports car got crunched, I had to have sinus surgery, then Hurricane Harvey decimated my hometown and flooded my house.

Hard to find the gratitude in all of the muck and mire (literally) that has been my life for the past three-plus months, and especially the last 30+ days since we flooded.

I am still living in a home with no flooring, walls torn up at least 2’ from the floor all throughout, some walls totally gutted and ceilings gone, nothing on the walls, and all but the bare essentials packed up and moved into storage. My OCD is in overdrive because of the chaos that is my home.

But it could have been worse. So I am grateful.

While I was sleeping through the storm with my dogs (doped up on pain meds because my sinus surgery was literally the day before it hit), neighbors across the highway from me were fleeing their homes in waist-deep and sometimes neck-deep water. A dear friend called me frantic at 2AM, wanting to know who she should call to rescue her elderly mother, who was now on the 2nd floor of her home and the water was coming up the staircase.

The stories we heard in the next few days were harrowing compared to what we experienced.

The evening that the storm was coming onshore, my husband brought me my rain boots to keep by the bed in the event the water was deeper when we woke up (it was barely coming into the house when I laid down at 11PM). It was over ankle deep when we got up, and stayed that way for over 2 days. While my wood plank flooring floated all over the house, we tried to save what furniture we could. We were moving in slow motion, like zombies in the Apocalypse, not really knowing what to do or where to go, assuming we could even leave our neighborhood.

But it could have been worse.

While we lost a few pieces of furniture and all of our flooring, some neighbors and friends had water up to the rooftop and lost everything. My niece, who is getting married soon, lost her entire house (thank goodness the wedding dress was NOT there). Some people lost their lives.

So after the initial shock of it all started to wane, and I could go a full day without crying hysterically at feeling so overwhelmed with everything (and still feeling horrible from the surgery I was not able to adequately recover from), I had to stop and think.

I am grateful.

I am grateful for the rescues that we watched from our kitchen window, as civilian strangers came and launched their boats from our front yard and got people out of their flooded homes all around us, with just the clothing on their back and their pets.

I am grateful that first responders and military came from all over, leaving their own homes to come and help people here that they do not know. Some of them had flooded homes as well, but felt the call of duty stronger than dealing with their own situations.

I am grateful for my daughter and her fiancé, who dropped everything to come to our house and help us pack up what we could, rip out wet floors and walls, clean up our pool that looked like a lagoon, and worked tirelessly for days to make sure my husband and I were alright. They never complained, never asked for anything, and never listened to us when we said “go home and rest, we are fine.”

I am grateful for all of the mission trips I went on over the last 15 years, helping people who had experienced the same thing I was now going through, helping them sort through their lives, decide what to keep and what to discard, and leaving it all on the curb like trash. Now I know how it feels to be the recipient of that kind of help. And I had often wondered, as I did that work for others, how I would feel if it were me who needed the help. Now I know.

And I am grateful.

I am grateful for the tears that I am shedding as I sit and write this article, knowing that now they are tears of joy and gratitude, and not stress and worry. We are going to be fine. I can cry now knowing that God has truly walked with us through this, and will be by our sides until we are finished rebuilding.

I am grateful because I know that it could have been so much worse.

We could be the people living in the “tent city” in the parking lot of our local Civic Center. But we are living in our home still, even though it is a bit torn up. We are home.

We could be without jobs because our offices flooded or employers shut down and let us go. But we are both still gainfully employed and did not suffer any loss of income because of this event.

We could be homeless. We could be displaced far from our families. But we aren’t.

And I am grateful.

If you are in a time of your life where you are finding it hard to be grateful, be encouraged by this: God spoke to me loud and clear in the depths of my sorrow and helped me to see His hand in this. A friend came over to check on us and as I cried she prayed over me, and quoted the scripture about how God cares for the tiny sparrows, and how He considers us to be of so much more worth than sparrows. When she went to leave and I opened the front door, the largest flock of sparrows I have ever seen was in my front yard, and the door startled them so they took off in a flutter.  I knew without a doubt that God was showing me that He is with us and we will be fine.

And I am grateful.

Thank you for reading,

Doneane Beckcom

Doneane Beckcom
CEO, Bold Radio Station
Certified Fitness Nutrition Specialist
Fitness Nutrition Consulting, LLC

Are You Working With a Divided Heart?

Are you working with a divided heart?

A divided heart is where your heart is just not in your work because you allow doubt, fear and other things test your faith. When we let the doubt win, we lose overall.

We lose that dream that we visioned to make real and we never progress in making it happen. So, really, we are working with a divided heart and mind. We let the darkness win and we go back into our comfort zone where it’s extremely cosy and think it was a stupid idea to have thought we could achieve what we had in mind.

Guess what? There is no cosy place in the big wide world of living out your dreams! If you are not shaking in your boots with every goal you set, then you are not growing, period. You are not stretching yourself to see what you are truly capable of and you never will as long as you keep that divided heart. As long as you keep letting in that doubt, fear and going back to that place of comfort the devil is laughing at you.

Now, if you are a person who is strong willed and knows that no matter what it will happen and chooses to walk by faith and not by sight every single day towards your dreams with the full expectancy of knowing that you will have to walk through storms, that you will have to be prepared and willing to work from a place of excellence, and that you will need to cut all excuses (well-planned lies) from your journey. Take full responsibility and face whatever comes your way with a full heart of love and understanding that this journey was written for you.

Do you think your results may be different?

Of course, it would! I see far too many business owners working their selves to exhaustion because they choose (notice how I said choose) to work with a divided heart and not stay focused on the vision in their mind. We each have truly amazing natural God-given gifts that we choose not to use, completely ignore the vision in our minds and go down the completely wrong track and providing services that drain us and end up letting the doubt take over and take us away from where our true purpose lies.

If you just slowed down for a moment and stopped trying to be Jack of all trades and master of none, you would actually start to see that vision in your mind of what you were actually created for, to begin with. Then when you start to take action towards that vision and place huge focus upon it (nothing else) it then starts to come alive and take on a whole new life of its own.

And why does it start to come alive and take on a whole new life of its own? This is because you started to walk by faith and not by sight. You let go of all fears and said: “I am going for this in every fibre of my being, no matter what!”.

You stopped letting the darkness win and outshone it with the light that came from your heart and soul. Which is so bright it actually dissolves all negative thoughts, doubt and fear and the devil shuts up and goes to toy with somebody else who is living with a divided heart and soul instead.

If you work with a divided heart, you are not the only one who suffers. The people who’s lives you were supposed to touch for the reason and purpose you were created also miss out.

Let go of that doubt, let the light win, and go for it with all your might!


Have a wonderful Valentines Day,

Much Love

Kate xxx