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Breaking through into Gratitude – Written By Trilby Johnson

Breaking through into Gratitude
Article for the Missing Piece Magazine

by Trilby Johnson, Author and Body Energy Alchemist

There’s so much hype around ‘gratitude’ and how important it is. While this may be true, for a long time in my life, I struggled with gratitude. It’s not that I didn’t want to be grateful – I did, however, keeping with my own integrity and honesty, I knew I wasn’t there yet! And quite frankly, faking it until I made it, wasn’t working for me either. This often left me confused and feeling guilty – was there something wrong with me that I couldn’t feel gratitude? I was in a transformational pickle and for some time did not know which way to turn! Have you ever felt like this and wondered what’s going on or how to change it?

Quite simply, as the individual you are, the way in which you experience events and gratitude, is totally exclusive to you. So when presented with a new concept, it’s up to you to find the doorway in. Here are some of clues I followed that helped me to break through into gratitude, in a way that felt genuine and empowering.

 

  1. Defining Gratitude

Very often, due to indoctrination and socialization, you can get pulled into the definition of the ‘group consciousness’ around different concepts. Gratitude, is simply one example. So what does gratitude mean for you?

As humans, there is a tendency to want to classify information. For the most part, the linguistic or language meaning is used, as a form of creating easier understanding and cognitive cohesion. On the surface this works. However, this only addresses the mental aspects of definitions. There is another level of definition, commonly called semantics, or in other words, meaning. Take a look at what’s underneath the gratitude.
The way your brain stores data is very much linked to the emotional charge of the events in your life. When strong emotions are involved, then defining gratitude becomes a whole different kettle of fish. If you were to stop and imagine yourself being grateful, what would that look like, feel like, sound like to you? Follow these clues. I suggest one way of how, in point two.

 

  1. Feel Your Way

Trust your feelings because they are your compass. If even feeling gratitude feels off, then all it is showing you, is that you haven’t yet found your way. Often there is a tendency to judge this as right or wrong, which can create a wedge between where you are and feeling gratitude. This is the reason that defining what gratitude embodies for you is essential, otherwise it simply will not stick and keeps you stuck.

If you feel that gratitude means giving up, faking it, lying to yourself, making another part of you feel wrong and it’s greedy to ask for more – then you will sabotage yourself in some way. It’s important to look at all the aspects that go into an attitude of gratitude – for you. And when along the way, it feels off for you, keep going and ask for clarity as you move forward. Feel your way – it’s your best bet!

 

  1. Use Manners

Your words matter! They really do. Do you consciously say ‘please’ and ‘thank you’ when you want or receive something? This may appear an ‘old fashioned’ way of doing things, however, I am a firm believer in ‘old wisdom’.

The way you are speaking to others, is an outward reflection of how you speak to yourself – it shows what kind of a mind-map you have. Everything is within and this includes the capacity to gift and receive – and the code words to access these states are ‘please’ and ‘thank you’.

As a child, I was taught that if I wanted something, to ask and say ‘please’. And when I received something, to say ‘thank you’. Only much later as an adult did I observe, that when I consciously applied these to my intentions and desires, there was a distinct shift in the energy dynamic. Almost as if the Universe stopped and paid attention to what I was going to say and do.

Using manners helps to cultivate a ‘walk the talk’ behaviour! When I use my manners, I am acknowledging the divine aspect within myself and my capacity to co-create with Life itself. I am honouring my Self. This allows more ease and joy and a feeling of being ‘great-full’.

 

  1. Make your Life a Gratitude Journal

A very powerful and practical way to create the possibility of breaking through into gratitude in my experience, is with a gratitude journal. I found it really helpful to focus on writing down things I was grateful for. It helped me to count my blessings and give them form. However, please don’t let keeping a journal be the end result. It’s the starting point! Apply this ‘gratitude’ in your daily life and interactions and communications with others.

 

 

In my personal experience, to fully integrate a mindset, takes conscious direction. This is about applying mental and often abstract concepts with focus. This helped me to move through the struggle and meet gratitude in a pragmatic and tangible way that worked for me. And so can you!

Remember, gratitude is a process and as such, you simply cannot force your way into it.  By connecting to the essence of what gratitude feels like for you, then you will have your unique form of gratitude.  You do this by systematically assessing your feelings and observing what comes up for you.

Adjust. Align. Choose.

As you move forward with each step you are feeling your way and breaking through into gratitude.

Much gratitude,

Trilby x

p.s. Read my reverse psychology blog on gratitude https://trilbyjohnsontheconnective.com/how-to-successfully-become-ungrateful/


 Trilby Johnson is an Author, Speaker and Body Energy Alchemist. She specializes in supporting individuals to resolve their physical, mental, emotional and spiritual trauma and pain and create a new genuine sense of self, health, peace and joy.

She is the founder of her own successful business Trilby Johnson – The Connective and through her work and writing supports her clients in attaining their next level of expertise, with her gentle yet effective methods that she has gained from over 25 years of experience in Behavioural Psychology and the healing arts.

Trilby is a successful Author of two books: ‘Fearlessly Alone: Stop the Lonely Crisis and Find Your Happy’ and her collection of original quotes ‘A-Ha Moments: Inspirational Quotes To Shift Your Thinking

She has a degree in Psychology and is certified in Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), Reiki, DNA Activation, Meta-Coaching, Holistic Massage and Advanced Healing Processes. Trilby seeks to continually transform her own life and uses all her tools personally.

Her days are spent following her joys: writing, travelling, guest speaking, reading, star gazing, enjoying her organic garden and country lifestyle.

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Gratitude by Stephen Garrett

True Gratitude Includes Both the Good and the Bad

It is very common in new age spiritual practice to be grateful for all the good that comes our way. Indeed it is important to practice Gratitude for all that we receive. That’s the easy part and really only half the coin of gratefulness.

If we are to be true to the practice of real Gratitude we also need to be thankful for those things that happen to us that may be deemed as ‘bad’ – The ‘shit happens’ stuff of life. It may seem odd that we would practice Gratitude for these types of happenings;

Divorce

Job Loss

Financial Loss

Death

Loss of Ability

Loss of a Home

Yet, if we are unwilling to face these types of events and over time be grateful for them we are not really practicing Gratitude at all. We may be practicing appreciation for the ‘good’, while we avoid the ‘bad’ at all costs. And besides how can we possibly be grateful for the loss of a loved one?

Well, let me tell you a story.

My late sister Jody died back in 1988 and initially I was anything but grateful! I was angry, confused, sad, guilty, lost – anything but grateful. Jody’s death really shook the foundation of my life to the point that I changed careers and set out on my journey of social / human work as opposed to my investment finance career. Jody’s death actually re-birthed me! Her death breathed new life into me.

And over time a deep sense of Gratitude overtook me. I couldn’t believe I was indeed grateful for my sister’s passing. And yet I was. I still missed her deeply and was still grieving her death, yet at the same time this profound sense of Gratitude was right there beside the sadness and the missing.

Without my sister death I would likely still be in the investment finance business. I am so grateful I was willing to let her death wake me up to my greater potential. And yes on special dates like Christmas and her birthday I still miss her deeply. In may sound odd this combination of sadness and missing coupled with gratitude and yet they co-exist in me to this very day.

When I look back at all the ‘shit’ that has happening in my life and approach it from the practice of Gratitude I always find the gift beside the loss, and the gift when I accept it always enhances my living. It never fails to surprise me.

My encouragement to each reader is to look closely at the ‘shit’ that has happened in your life. Now, with the grace of some time passed look at the loss and then also for the gift that the loss left behind. Look for how your life changed because of the ‘death’. There will be something there to be grateful for right beside the pain of the loss itself.

Gratitude for all things is a real practice and one that is most worthy of attempting.

Thank you for reading,

Stephen,


Over the past decade I have spoken to groups as large as 1,200 people and more intimate groups from 15 to 200 folks. I have spoken in person at conferences such as IdeaCity, Double D’s Death and Dying Conference, the Ageing and Spirituality Conference in Los Angeles, the Bereavement Ontario Networks 25th Annual Conference, along with numerous radio and television shows.

I currently work with such organizations as hospices, professional continuing education organizations, colleges, communities, and churches creating tailor-made workshops to suit each group’s unique needs and learning styles. Learn more at www.stephengarrett.ca/

 

 

The Beliefs and Affirmations that make us who we are by Trilby Johnson

The Beliefs and Affirmations that make us who we are

Written by Trilby Johnson

Our beliefs are the building blocks of our identity. As they stack together one after the other, throughout childhood and later life, they create the tapestry of our personalities and from this, the identity that we cultivate begins to take shape and form. We become what we believe, both consciously and unconsciously. On one level, this may offer insight into who we are and how we live life.  Nevertheless, very often, on a more personal and individual level, the beliefs we hold may leave us feeling a fraud or unfulfilled and very confused, with the desire to explore and experience more…

This happens when the beliefs we have been taught and are holding onto, are not our own and rather a product of socialization and indoctrination. When a belief is a good one, it can be very good and lead to positive experiences. When a belief is a bad one, it can be very bad and lead to limiting or disempowering experiences. It’s important to be aware that not all beliefs are created equal!

Many people consider that a belief is the same as the truth. A belief and what is true, are not necessarily the same thing, however a belief will certainly influence the type of experiences we have as individuals. If we think of a belief systems as a type of filter, this becomes easier to understand. In particular on a cognitive level, this distinction is important to highlight – beliefs are forms of habitual thinking that build and trigger strong neural responses.

This is one reason, that a strong belief may be difficult to challenge or change, as it is deeply embedded into a person’s behavioural patterns. Not to mention the fact that most of us have several predominant beliefs that are running the show.

In addition to this, a belief rarely stands alone and is joined with one or several other beliefs – known as associations – that weave together to create a web of belief systems. For example, if we have the belief that money is the root of all evil, this will activate a multitude of beliefs around money and what kinds of behaviours are considered good and evil. This comparative process is often subconscious and yet very powerful, which can leave many of us feeling torn in two when it comes to making choices in our daily lives and living up to our beliefs. Conflict usually arises however, when we are confronted by two or more main beliefs.

Confusion, in my opinion, is usually a signal that one or more beliefs are being challenged. This can be a good thing, when the belief being challenged is outdated or simply no longer accurate. In instances like this for example, I have found it helpful to ask targetted questions and to identify the principle belief(s) at play. Is this true for me? Is a powerful question that can offer a feeling of inner relief, clarity as well as inviting in new possibilities.

Affirmations are also a practical first step to retrain our brains and thus breaking a habit of thinking. It was the amazing and inspiring Louise Hay (1927-2017) who first introduced me to affirmations. These are statements that are formulated positively and in the present tense.  At this time in my life, I held the beliefs that I was unlovable, unloved and not good enough. This didn’t feel great at all and I really wanted to feel better about myself. Louise’s work on affirmations helped me learn how to begin to change these limiting beliefs.

I can still remember the wonder and excitement I felt at the time. I knew I was in the presence of what I wanted to hear and believe, even if at first it wasn’t quite yet comfortable. When I first begin affirming, ‘I love myself’ it was really difficult. The words sounded so strange and unfamiliar to me – it actually felt uncomfortable. I liked how saying them and writing them down made me feel about myself though and I kept on with them. Today I use affirmations intentionally to create and generate new and empowering mindset patterns and it helps me to incorporate positive and supportive beliefs that I can think throughout the day. It’s how I remind myself that I am a Conscious Creator co-creating with Life itself.

Our beliefs make us who we are, for the simple reason that we believe them. Herein lies the power and the weakness of beliefs. They can make us weak and strong, empowered and disempowered, believable or a fraud. The critical factor is to remember that although they make us, we can choose and change them. We have and are the power! We just have to believe it and then follow through to make our dreams become true.

Than you so much for reading, much love to you

Trilby xx


Trilby Johnson is an Author, Speaker and Body Energy Alchemist. She supports forward thinking individuals to organically resolve core emotional and physical pain and blocks that may be holding them back from living happy, healthy and successful lives. Find out more at www.trilbyjohnsontheconnective.com

 

 

 

 

 

Affirmations, do they really work? – By Kim B. Smith

Article Written By Kim B. Smith

 

I am a healthy person; I am strong and focused; I am loved; I am a shining ray of beauty…

I am energetic and productive to arrive through my day!

These are just a few samples of positive affirmations, something a lot of people do not believe in. Our belief system here is what we “buy” into, what we are told to by others.

First, I would like to talk more about affirmations. To be affirmed, affirming and more.

Here is the definition:

1, The action or process of affirming something or being affirme

“He nodded in affirmation.

2,  Emotional support and encouragement.

These affirmations are powerful – they work. For me personally, they help me calm my nerves and anxiety. I take three deep breaths before stating my affirmations. However, I have clients that insist that they don’t work or that it is just too simple! Really? Why does everything have to be so neck breaking hard for us to receive love and desired results? Crazy, huh?

Affirmations need to be visible. I find placing mine in my journal helps. I write them on Post-its, and I keep them in my car, on my mirror and around my monitor of my computer. Places where I can see them and be reminded.

I let myself get creative and use sharpies and different color Post-its. At one point I used to teach a leadership class to high schoolers, we did the eliminating of negative beliefs, we taught them how to take their negative beliefs and turn them into positive, supportive ones by using the Post-it method. One of the students shared with the class that she decided to place her Post-its on her bedroom ceiling so she could see them first thing in the morning and last at night! Brilliant! We saw a shift in this young lady’s personality.

These affirmations change our beliefs about ourselves, AND THEY WORK.

Yes, affirmations work, I know this because we live in a total affirmed world. A very negative world that affirms with fear and negativity.

How many times have you been given a compliment and affirm with a negative comment? How many times do you negatively put yourself down? “I am fat, I am a loser, I am a failure.” We have all done this at one point in our lives. And we buy into this, don’t we? Aren’t these affirmations changing our beliefs?

Affirmations work, positive or negative. Humans have been walking around for years affirming things.

“I am ____________.” You chose, power-filled and positive or knock-down, fear-based, and negative. But I will tell you, they work. Affirmations have worked since the beginning of time, it’s just that we as a race have been trained to use them negatively. So changing all of this up, feels strange, abnormal, and very different. Indeed, and it will until a new routine is started for yourself.

Practice is the way to change, and practice doesn’t get you to perfection. Practice supports us and allows us to be Human.

Begin today with three positive affirmations, place them around you on your mirror, monitor and such. You got this!

Peace, Kim xx


Kim Boudreau Smith is a multi-talented CEO and business leader with a legacy of empowering thousands of women. From a corporate background in sales and marketing and over 20 years of experience in the fitness industry, Kim has gone on to become an #1 International Best-Selling Author with the book being one of the best-selling on Amazon for 2015! Kim also has become a multiple International Best-Selling Author Business Consultant and Speaker. Kim combines her expertise with a passion to motivate and inspire other women to become “top producers in their lives”. As CEO of Kim Boudreau Smith Inc.& Founder of Bold Radio Station her international speaking and consulting work has enabled thousands of women to benefit from her inspirational and empowering work. Find out more at www.kimbsmith.com

 

Beliefs & Affirmations – Written By Hayley Young

Written By Hayley Young

 

When you truly believe in yourself, anything is possible! Affirmations is one of my favorite topics, and I can speak from personal experience when I say they work, they actually work!

Beliefs are what we think of ourselves. They create our lives and our futures, they are the cause of everything we think, say and do. Many of our beliefs are formed unconsciously as children and through personal experiences, but at any time our mind can be reprogrammed by our thoughts and affirmations.

To change our core beliefs about ourselves we need to be ready to start our journey of self-improvement and becoming the best version of ourselves. My journey first started several years ago when my friend shared a documentary with me, you may of her of it, The Secret by Rhonda Byrne. I was immediately hooked, and instantly life felt different, more positive and happier. By the time I went to bed, my affirmations were written, and I have stuck by them since that night. They have changed over time as I have had my achievements, but I truly believe in them.

Daily affirmations reprogram your brain with your new beliefs and views of yourself. You see yourself differently; think more positively, and confidence and self-esteem develop. You might not realize it at the time, but when you look back, you will see the personal journey you have taken. In the future, you won’t recognize the person you used to be, in the best possible way.

Decide who and where you want to be in life in the future. You need to be clear about what you want and set goals around what you’d like to achieve. Then you can write your affirmations. You can also make a note of any negative thoughts you have about yourself and write the counterpart down in an affirmation. Put them in places you will see every day (fridge, mirror, phone screensaver, laptop background, etc) and say them in from of the mirror every morning and every evening.

Affirmation Tips:

Write your affirmation in the present tense.

Start with ‘I’ or ‘My’.

Make sure they are positive.

Add an emotion such as ‘I feel so excited that…’.

Feel like it has already happened.

I hope this helps you on your own journey, thank you for reading.

Much Love,

Hayley xx


I am 5ft 5/6ish, dark blonde hair (often dye it red), blue eyes, happy-go-lucky, easy going, always happy and up for a laugh. Love travelling. Life is to short to be miserable!! you can connect with me right here: https://www.facebook.com/hayley.young.9237

Change Your Thoughts, Change Your Life – By Paige Vidrine

Article Written By Paige Vidrine

 

Are you stuck in a rut? You cant catch a break, your relationships aren’t working out and life just
keeps sending you curve balls. I used to ask myself, “Why me?” when things would go wrong. I
felt unappreciated at work, couldn’t make my own business successful and was raising two kids
all while going through a divorce. “I am doing everything I can to have a good life and nothing is
working out in my favor.” This was my reaction to any problem I would face until I learned the
most valuable lesson in my life. As I was trying to claw my way out of depression, I watched a
Tony Robbins video explaining that the way we frame events in our lives completely changes
who we become as individuals.

Imagine this, there is an entrepreneur trying to make a living selling a milk shake mixer.
Sales weren’t all that bad, but they weren’t all that good either. This entrepreneur had big
dreams but each endeavor he took on would come to a screeching halt. His relationships never
lasted and something always seemed to go wrong for him. If he would have framed his
circumstances by thinking, “Why me?”, he would have thrown in the towel or just given minimal
effort in his jobs. Instead, he was always looking at every failure as an opportunity for growth.
He thought, “What can I learn from this?” and kept on moving. Because of his determination to
keep going, he opened himself up to the entrepreneurship endeavor of a lifetime. He became
the co-founder of McDonalds, making hundreds of millions in his career. Ray Kroc and other
successful men and women find ways to frame their thoughts so that instead of sabotaging their
lives, they create something beautiful.

I have been inspired by stories like this, probably because my mom has a pretty cool
one herself. Listening to her rags to riches story always inspired me to study other successful
people and figure out what it is that makes them keep going in the face of adversity. I have
learned a lot in my studies and I can honestly say that I am a stronger person because I put into
practice the idea of thought framing. Here are a few pointers so you can help yourself start living life on your own terms:

1. Realize that you might just be sabotaging your own life. I want to start with this idea,
because so often people will find themselves in terrible situations over and over again and
then question why life just doesn’t work out for them. Eventually, the let downs and the pain
lead many people to just not really care enough anymore to try to make life any better. “It
never works out anyway so why try.”
For these type of people who have recurring heart ache, I want you to look at the
circumstance and think about whether or not you play any role in sabotaging your own life. I
like to think of an example of a young girl whose father was in and out of her life. She didn’t
realize it, but his irresponsible behavior taught her early on that she wasn’t really worth it. She
felt like if he cant stick around then she didn’t matter all that much. As she got older, she took
easy jobs that offered quick money because that was instant validation. She became a
compulsive spender because that too made her feel good in the moment. With every
opportunity or stroke of luck she received in life, she could never find a way to maximize her
potential. She associated with people who stayed in ruts themselves, always thinking that the
underdogs deserved love. These poor relationships with people who couldn’t catch a break,
pushed her further and further into her irresponsible lifestyle. Never once did she think that she
might need to make a change in the way she acts, handles money, deals with people, does
business. This story is one of ultimate sabotage. It is true that bad circumstances are not always
your fault, but what you do with those circumstances and the choices you make because of
them can either wrap you up into more of a mess or allow you to pull yourself out.
So stop for a moment and be honest with yourself. Think about whether or not your
choices and mindsets could possibly be sabotaging your success.

2. You have time. I was talking to a friend of mine who had lost her baby boy. I found that she
has such potential to be successful in life, but in the moments that mattered most, she would
make decisions that didn’t benefit her all too much. This led me to question her deep beliefs.
She explained to me that she believes that time just isn’t on your side. Hearing this made
me sad, because the way she framed her loss was in a way that couldn’t benefit her long
term. When you are always feeling like you’re running out of time, you will try to short cut
your way to results and that never builds a solid foundation for a successful life.
I used to do this myself. In my mid twenties I would think that I should have it all
together. I felt terrible for not even knowing what my passion actually was. This led me to feeling
constantly frustrated with life, causing me to focus on what I am not accomplishing. I finally
realized that time was on my side, that I could accomplish a lot in twenty years if I started now,
that I could make up for 5 years of unknowing in one year of intense focus and hard work.
Because I changed the way I viewed my time, I make the most out of every second of every
day. I try to make the best choices based on what I have decided that I want. I reach out to
people who I admire and let them teach me. Framing my mind this way has eased so much
anxiety and helps me to really focus on what matters most.

3. We all make mistakes. Own up to it. I used to hate when people would call me out for the
mistakes I would make. It was like a jab to my ego every time someone would mention my
shortcomings. I hated being wrong and messing up so badly that I would even lie to myself
when things wouldn’t go right. I would blame other people instead of owning up to my mistakes.
When things go wrong or situations turn out badly, it’s not beneficial to look at what role
others played in the situation before truly evaluating your role in the problem. My relationships
really took a turn for the better when I started disagreements off by simply saying, “I may be
wrong, but this is where I was coming from.” It has been amazing to see the benefits of simply
owning up to the mistakes I make in my life. I used to believe that admitting my shortcomings
would make me less of a person, but in reality it has made me more secure in myself and given
me the strength I need to move past problems quickly, not allowing them to get out of control.

4. Stop expecting not to struggle.
If comfort is your goal, then you will always be chasing something that is very elusive. I see
people every day on social media complaining every time something goes wrong in their lives.
Is it such a monumental event every time multiple things go awry in a day, that they feel the
need to share with their internet friend groups? It seems as though facing issues is an unusual
thing for these people. I cannot say I was never like this. Granted, I never used social media as
a tool to vent my frustrations, but I did at some point call friends to do just that. After I started
working towards a more positive life though, I realized that this was not beneficial. I also started
to see how griping when things went wrong could become an every day ordeal, because things
always go wrong. So instead of expecting them not to, I just made up in my mind that when they
did I would be ready for it. I would not expect a perfect life. I decided that life would be wonderful
even if I had a flat tire. I would change it and move on. I decided that I would be happy. Even
when my brother died, I found a way to use the grief and pain to fuel my passions. At the end of
the day, the rain will fall. I have found more joy in dancing in it than seeking shelter.

All in all, the greatest asset in my life has been the way that I have trained myself to think. At
one point my mindsets where chaining me down to a miserable existence. When I learned to
frame my thoughts properly, I stopped sabotaging my life, realized I had enough time to build
something significant, learned to build better relationships and how to enjoy the struggles life

brings. Life isn’t perfect now, but it is much more enjoyable. I have a new found hope and that is
all that I need to build life on my own terms.

Much Love & Gratitude

Paige xx

27 Affirmations That Will Change Your Life

Affirmations??

Affirmations are a very powerful tool that can be used daily and they can plant a seed within your mind which develop into a whole new way of thinking for you.

Affirmations can be used to inline you’re thinking about the results you desire in life and they can turn your negative thoughts into positive ones. Which will then work in harmony with the natural spiritual laws of the universe, to attract what it is you want to you.

What are Affirmations?

An affirmation is spoken or written statements that are read daily which can completely transform your thoughts and make your belief systems shift to a whole new level. When using affirmations you speak of already achieving the goals you desire. Which then shifts the mind to that level of achievement and so you start to believe you are what you want to be. When your mind shifts to this level the laws of the universe work in harmony with these new thoughts and draws everything to you that you need to become what it is you desire.

So basically if you read a simple paragraph of say 3 to 4 lines twice a day. You start to become what it is you truly want to be and believing you can be it. Before your very eyes, you will start attracting the things and people to yourself in order to make your goal possible.

If you use the same affirmation for 90 days and ready it twice daily you will start to really see a drastic change in your thoughts. I myself have an amazing story about how affirmations transformed my life and I will share this with you on the audio when I talk about your next exercise. Now to begin with you may think how the hell are a few lines going to change my life?

Just please trust me when I tell you that they do. In order for affirmations to work you need to place them somewhere that you will read them at least twice a day. I place my affirmations on my bathroom wall right next to the sink. This way I read them twice daily when I brush my teeth. In the whole time it takes me to brush my teeth I am repeating this paragraph over and over again. You need to have fun with it and turn it into a little game for yourself and see how many times you can read the paragraph in the time it takes you to brush your teeth.
In the next exercise, you are going to write an affirmation of your very own. You are going to write what you are going to read either out loud or to yourself twice daily. I want you to set a goal so high that it makes your knees tremble thinking about it and then I want you to write your affirmation in the present tense. I want it to read like you are already what it is you desire to be.

To begin with, it’s hard to decide what to write in an affirmation. So here are a few examples to help you get started:

• I am the master of my own destiny.
• I am happy and love myself from the inside out.
• Miracles happen in my life daily.
• I am a truly amazing person who lives life to the full.
• I attract health, wealth and happiness where ever I go.
• All my desires have come true daily.
• Everything I need to succeed lays within me
• I have love, success and happiness
• I have the perfect weight I desire
• My finical situation becomes more wealthy each day
• I am a money magnet
• I attract opportunities to make money every single day
• My body is giving me the gift of great health
• I love myself and everyone around me
• I am surrounded by love

There are different ways that you can use affirmations. You could just write one sentence on several posts it notes. Like the example sentences above or you could write a paragraph which states your entire goal in one. You can then place this in one area of your house that you know you will go to at least twice a day. You have to decide how this will fit into your life the best and place it somewhere that you won’t forget to read it each day.

I asked The Missing Piece Magazine followers to share some of the affirmations that have changed their own lives, here is what they shared:

I am lovable, loving, and loved. Lynette Davis loveselflovebiz.com

My children inspire me to be the person I strive to be. Donna Anne Pace

Be the person others aspire to be….. be kind always, be passionate about what your mission is…. inspire and others to follow their dreams. Support, encourage and uplift one another. Dr Michele Langbein www.leadersempowerlives.com

I am my Master teacher who can find all guidance within my heart. Ellen Rich www.act2.expert

Wendy Hutchinson: There is no room for negativity in my life. Put that bitch in a box and stand in your power. www.alinealifecoaching.com

Mary Jean Marquez “It is possible to be a blessing to others while in the midst of your own difficulties!” -Mary Jean Marquez Women Uplifting Women / Women Uplifting Women / Inspiring Healthy Living – Whole Clean Plant-Based Food – Exercise

Vanessa Carter, I am filled with divine wisdom, divine intelligence, divine love and divine abundance and so it is.

I am on fire with LOVE for All That Is! – Trilby Johnson www.trilbyjohnsontheconnective.com

Aime Hutton “Inch by inch dreams and goals come true!” – Aime Hutton www.inchbyinchempowerment.com

Suzanne Gabli I am Aurora Borealis. The divine is leading me. All is well.

Sylvia Friedman Self-love is the only wealth we need.

Now it’s time to write yours!
Here’s to writing your own life and future reality!

Much Love

Kate xx


 

7 Questions to Ask Yourself About Your Relationship Part 7

Q7, Do you and your partner connect intimately?

 

A lot of couples would argue that sex isn’t a big issue in their relationship. This all depends on your own opinion.

Personally, I think it’s a massive issue that both sides should feel full-filled in every aspect of it.

A lot of people have grown up with the influence of their parents telling them that sex is dirty or rude and should only happen in the bedroom with the lights off. …mmm no!.Forget what everyone else has made you believe and decide for yourself what it is that YOU like and YOU want.

If you and your partner have great communication within your relationship, then tell each other your wants and desires. This could completely turn around your life and bring you and your partner so much closer together. Never feel like you have to have sex with somebody to keep them, that’s so wrong!

Communication is the key! And if they are not willing to listen, then they are not worth it.

 

Final Thought….

 

The key to a successful and loving relationship is complete honesty, respect and communication. These three things are vital to keeping the journey of your relationship a happy and full-filling one and it will also make a relationship a pleasure and not a chore.

A lot of people are trapped in relationships that they are completely unhappy with and exist in denial.  The problem truly lies within the foundations of the relationship. I hold my hands up and agree I have been guilty of this in the past myself.

I know also that a lot of you who aren’t happy can’t see a way out and fear that leaving the relationship will mean “going it alone”. YES, it is scary to leave a relationship that you are not happy in and YES it is tough to do so…. BUT, this is only a short process you will go through. This then builds strength into your character and makes you become a stronger person. It also leaves you with the strength that you know you will never tolerate the same treatment in any future relationship you have.

If you are in a controlling or violent relationship, then these are often the hardest to leave and it’s up to yourself to gain the strength to leave that person. It also means letting go of the denial and excuse making that you have told yourself over and over again. I know myself how lonely it can be to be suffering from domestic violence and this is why I write so much on this subject. Not only will it help other people, but it will also help me face the truth of what I went through and finally put it all behind me.

Life is no dress rehearsal and we are only here once. We can’t come back for another shot.  Do yourself a favour and ask yourself,…… what is it that I really want?.

I hope these 7 questions really help you on your journey,

Much Love,

Kate xx

7 Questions to Ask Yourself About Your Relationship Part 6

Q6, Are you allowed to be you?

 

You know you have a fantastic relationship when your partner supports 1000% in everything you do. They never hold you back from anything you want to do and nor do they judge you for it…..They simply let YOU be YOU !.

Every person on the planet has the God- given right to do exactly what they want to do and when they want to do it. If your partner complains about the way you dress or tells you not to wear makeup, then this is completely wrong. If they hold you back from doing what you love (be it career wise or stopping you from following your dreams)… then this is wrong also.

A relationship should be one long, happy, successful journey through time, where each partner loves, honours and respects each other’s wishes. You should be able to have your own individual life as well as having your life together. Respect is a two way street in a relationship and you have to give just as much as you take from that person.

Stay tuned for 1 more questions and 1 more exercise,

Much Love,

Kate x