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Gratitude by Stephen Garrett

True Gratitude Includes Both the Good and the Bad

It is very common in new age spiritual practice to be grateful for all the good that comes our way. Indeed it is important to practice Gratitude for all that we receive. That’s the easy part and really only half the coin of gratefulness.

If we are to be true to the practice of real Gratitude we also need to be thankful for those things that happen to us that may be deemed as ‘bad’ – The ‘shit happens’ stuff of life. It may seem odd that we would practice Gratitude for these types of happenings;

Divorce

Job Loss

Financial Loss

Death

Loss of Ability

Loss of a Home

Yet, if we are unwilling to face these types of events and over time be grateful for them we are not really practicing Gratitude at all. We may be practicing appreciation for the ‘good’, while we avoid the ‘bad’ at all costs. And besides how can we possibly be grateful for the loss of a loved one?

Well, let me tell you a story.

My late sister Jody died back in 1988 and initially I was anything but grateful! I was angry, confused, sad, guilty, lost – anything but grateful. Jody’s death really shook the foundation of my life to the point that I changed careers and set out on my journey of social / human work as opposed to my investment finance career. Jody’s death actually re-birthed me! Her death breathed new life into me.

And over time a deep sense of Gratitude overtook me. I couldn’t believe I was indeed grateful for my sister’s passing. And yet I was. I still missed her deeply and was still grieving her death, yet at the same time this profound sense of Gratitude was right there beside the sadness and the missing.

Without my sister death I would likely still be in the investment finance business. I am so grateful I was willing to let her death wake me up to my greater potential. And yes on special dates like Christmas and her birthday I still miss her deeply. In may sound odd this combination of sadness and missing coupled with gratitude and yet they co-exist in me to this very day.

When I look back at all the ‘shit’ that has happening in my life and approach it from the practice of Gratitude I always find the gift beside the loss, and the gift when I accept it always enhances my living. It never fails to surprise me.

My encouragement to each reader is to look closely at the ‘shit’ that has happened in your life. Now, with the grace of some time passed look at the loss and then also for the gift that the loss left behind. Look for how your life changed because of the ‘death’. There will be something there to be grateful for right beside the pain of the loss itself.

Gratitude for all things is a real practice and one that is most worthy of attempting.

Thank you for reading,

Stephen,


Over the past decade I have spoken to groups as large as 1,200 people and more intimate groups from 15 to 200 folks. I have spoken in person at conferences such as IdeaCity, Double D’s Death and Dying Conference, the Ageing and Spirituality Conference in Los Angeles, the Bereavement Ontario Networks 25th Annual Conference, along with numerous radio and television shows.

I currently work with such organizations as hospices, professional continuing education organizations, colleges, communities, and churches creating tailor-made workshops to suit each group’s unique needs and learning styles. Learn more at www.stephengarrett.ca/

 

 

Belief/Affirmations: Do you believe in the power of prayer?

Article Written By Dr. Jane Cox

You might have noticed that I rather enjoy taking a bit of a controversial view on all sorts of subjects. I remember being taught from quite young that there are certain subjects that you just don’t talk about, and those generally include subjects around things like religion, or politics. Well, that was like a red rag to a bull for me. Tell me I shouldn’t do something, and immediately it engages me as something worth taking notice of. I am also often the “devil’s advocate” – I’ll keep the open mind, and always allow for the possibility that what I “believe” at any stage may change, because my current decision or belief may be based on a lack of knowledge, rather than an abundance of knowledge. And for me, ignorance is no reason to structure my life in a certain way. After all, life is about growing and learning, and I think we all have a huge amount of potential for that learning and that growth.

So one of the controversial subjects that has always interested me is the power of prayer. Some people swear by it, some people dismiss it completely. I went and became a metaphysican in my desire to understand it, amongst trying to get a handle on all other things spiritual and philosophical. I found out a lot of things about prayer, but I hope to share just a small finding in this couple of pages that we have together. And maybe it’ll encourage you to test this concept for yourself.

If you believed the nuns that taught me during my high school years, prayers are answered. To be honest, I had a big red flashing doubt sign in my brain when they came up with this concept. I tested it. I would pray for something, put my heart and soul into that prayer, and nothing seemed to happen. I would do the other thing they suggest – always start your prayer with thanks of what you have in your life, and then expand on this concept and pray for what you want as though the prayer had already been granted. Well, I liked the idea of that, but I wasn’t feeling overwhelmed with the success of the strategy.

One of my best friends at school was always worrying about her weight. She tried this prayer thing as well. She prayed to lose weight. She gave thanks for her thinness as though it had already become a reality. But nope. She kept looking much the same and, dare I say it, if there was weight doing anything it was appearing, not disappearing. So for a while I liked the concept of praying but the proof was still lacking.

Then I sat back and looked at what prayer actually was. It was effectively the sending up of energy into the Universe. And of course if there is real emotion involved in anything, it increased the amount of energy attached to that thought or desire. If we think of ourselves as electrical circuits, it makes sense that we exchange energy with the Universe. And if we guide that energy, and set our intentions, and include our emotions, it is like sending a guided missile up into the energy system of the Universe, and it certainly should be weighted in the favour of working, so why did it seem to have so little working proof?

Then I took a broader look at what was going on, and I experimented further, and I can honestly say that it is true what they say: Every prayer is answered. The trouble is that we tend to forget the first half of the statement. The fact is that EVERY THOUGHT is a prayer, and every prayer is answered. Think about it. Over seven billion souls, all sending up the energy of their thoughts. That’s a helluva lot of energy being sent out into the Universe!

So somehow we expect the Universe, that God power, to listen really carefully to all of that energy coming from each one of us. We expect that if that thought is preceded by a “Dear God”, and ends off with an “Amen”, that somehow the Universe will ignore the clutter of all those other energetic signals we send off, and just grant the request or intention sandwiched between those magic words. The more I thought about it, the more ridiculous it seemed.

I listened carefully to my friend. While for a few minutes each day she prayed for weight loss, she spent most of the other 23 hours and 55 minutes talking about how fat she felt she was. How she “only needed to think about a slice of cake and she would put on weight”. And I looked at where her thoughts centred, I listened to her self talk, and I saw where her emotions lay, and I saw how where she placed her attention was what manifested.

I saw myself do the same. I would “pray” for one thing, but believe another. I would ask for one result, and take actions and expend energy into creating the opposite result. Not intentionally, but when I was honest with myself, the pattern was clear. The negative self talk that we indulge in. The times that we diminish ourselves and run ourselves down. All of that energy, all of those thoughts, all sending out their energy into a very busy Universe, and the answering energy comes back. What we believe, we achieve. If what we internally believe is that we are failures, we create failure. If we believe we are incapable, we are. Or in my friend’s case, if we think we are overweight, we become the outward manifestation of those thoughts.

But on the flip side, when we catch our negative thoughts and beliefs, and we replace them with positive ones, we start to manifest that too. When we start to genuinely tell ourselves that we can do something, we manage it with relative ease. When we expect a positive outcome, we create a much larger possibility for that positive outcome. When our mind sends out clean and consistent energy, and we take ownership of our thoughts, we take back control over the outcome of those thoughts.

At first it may seem clunky. And quite an eye opener as to how many times we “think ourselves down”. But if every time you catch yourself thinking negatively, you intentionally replace those thoughts with positive ones, you start retraining your brain for positive results rather than negative ones. Every thought is a prayer, and every prayer is answered.

What are your thoughts? Because those thoughts are the thoughts that will become your reality.

Thank you so much for reading,

Jane xx


Dr. Jane Cox is a Human behavioural specialist, success psychology expert and ethno-psychologist. Internationally renowed motivational speaker & trainer. find out more at: https://www.drjanecox.co.uk/

The Beliefs and Affirmations that make us who we are by Trilby Johnson

The Beliefs and Affirmations that make us who we are

Written by Trilby Johnson

Our beliefs are the building blocks of our identity. As they stack together one after the other, throughout childhood and later life, they create the tapestry of our personalities and from this, the identity that we cultivate begins to take shape and form. We become what we believe, both consciously and unconsciously. On one level, this may offer insight into who we are and how we live life.  Nevertheless, very often, on a more personal and individual level, the beliefs we hold may leave us feeling a fraud or unfulfilled and very confused, with the desire to explore and experience more…

This happens when the beliefs we have been taught and are holding onto, are not our own and rather a product of socialization and indoctrination. When a belief is a good one, it can be very good and lead to positive experiences. When a belief is a bad one, it can be very bad and lead to limiting or disempowering experiences. It’s important to be aware that not all beliefs are created equal!

Many people consider that a belief is the same as the truth. A belief and what is true, are not necessarily the same thing, however a belief will certainly influence the type of experiences we have as individuals. If we think of a belief systems as a type of filter, this becomes easier to understand. In particular on a cognitive level, this distinction is important to highlight – beliefs are forms of habitual thinking that build and trigger strong neural responses.

This is one reason, that a strong belief may be difficult to challenge or change, as it is deeply embedded into a person’s behavioural patterns. Not to mention the fact that most of us have several predominant beliefs that are running the show.

In addition to this, a belief rarely stands alone and is joined with one or several other beliefs – known as associations – that weave together to create a web of belief systems. For example, if we have the belief that money is the root of all evil, this will activate a multitude of beliefs around money and what kinds of behaviours are considered good and evil. This comparative process is often subconscious and yet very powerful, which can leave many of us feeling torn in two when it comes to making choices in our daily lives and living up to our beliefs. Conflict usually arises however, when we are confronted by two or more main beliefs.

Confusion, in my opinion, is usually a signal that one or more beliefs are being challenged. This can be a good thing, when the belief being challenged is outdated or simply no longer accurate. In instances like this for example, I have found it helpful to ask targetted questions and to identify the principle belief(s) at play. Is this true for me? Is a powerful question that can offer a feeling of inner relief, clarity as well as inviting in new possibilities.

Affirmations are also a practical first step to retrain our brains and thus breaking a habit of thinking. It was the amazing and inspiring Louise Hay (1927-2017) who first introduced me to affirmations. These are statements that are formulated positively and in the present tense.  At this time in my life, I held the beliefs that I was unlovable, unloved and not good enough. This didn’t feel great at all and I really wanted to feel better about myself. Louise’s work on affirmations helped me learn how to begin to change these limiting beliefs.

I can still remember the wonder and excitement I felt at the time. I knew I was in the presence of what I wanted to hear and believe, even if at first it wasn’t quite yet comfortable. When I first begin affirming, ‘I love myself’ it was really difficult. The words sounded so strange and unfamiliar to me – it actually felt uncomfortable. I liked how saying them and writing them down made me feel about myself though and I kept on with them. Today I use affirmations intentionally to create and generate new and empowering mindset patterns and it helps me to incorporate positive and supportive beliefs that I can think throughout the day. It’s how I remind myself that I am a Conscious Creator co-creating with Life itself.

Our beliefs make us who we are, for the simple reason that we believe them. Herein lies the power and the weakness of beliefs. They can make us weak and strong, empowered and disempowered, believable or a fraud. The critical factor is to remember that although they make us, we can choose and change them. We have and are the power! We just have to believe it and then follow through to make our dreams become true.

Than you so much for reading, much love to you

Trilby xx


Trilby Johnson is an Author, Speaker and Body Energy Alchemist. She supports forward thinking individuals to organically resolve core emotional and physical pain and blocks that may be holding them back from living happy, healthy and successful lives. Find out more at www.trilbyjohnsontheconnective.com

 

 

 

 

 

Believe It – Or Not! By Donna Davis

Article Written By Donna Davis

 

There are 84,600 seconds in a day. That’s a lot of time to plan for failure – or success. Every waking moment is a chance for greatness, purpose and accomplishment…if we so choose. We have and make choices thousands of times a day both consciously and unconsciously.

Our minds are cluttered with old baggage that no longer serves us, and perhaps never did.  All the thoughts of minding someone else’s business, rehearsing conversations, if-onlys and wishful thinking are a big jumbled mess up in that beautiful mind of yours.  Maybe it’s time to tune in to our thoughts and thinking and sort things out a bit.

In order to do that you need to “find” yourself- the self that does all the thinking. Do you have a certain pattern of thoughts?  Do you have a preferred style of thinking? Are you on autopilot and let thinks run amuck-hoping that they will sort themselves out on their own?

Take a look at some choices below and see if any of these categories of thought seem familiar:

Spin Cycle:  The same thoughts, or series of thoughts are stuck on “repeat.”  For some reason your perception is that if you replay the same thoughts over and over again somehow things from the past will change. You think the same thoughts and place them in the “theatre” in your mind. You then take turns trying a new intro, a new outro, going through several wardrobe changes hoping that the outcome will be different. It’s time to shut the machine off, realize that the past cannot be changed or altered in any way, its already done. How do you want to move forward?

Roller Coaster: Woo-whooo what a ride we are on! We often get on this ride-with no seatbelt-and think that when we reach the end of the ride everything will turn out ‘just fine’ because we braved all of the emotions and twists and turns that the ride provides and somehow it will all will be worth it. We find ourselves bruised, battered, bewildered and disappointed. This ‘emotional’ ride has taken its toll on us and we have paid a very high price and often don’t get the outcome that we so desperately needed and believed that this ride would give us. Sometimes we get on the ride willingly, sometimes not. Often times we don’t realize that we have the option to get off. Don’t let this turn into a runaway train! Find the emergency brake! Find some steady ground and choose some better options, step by step.

In The Valley: It is VERY easy to take inventory of your sadness, pain and failures. They seem so BIG!  They are also very heavy and we have allowed them to wear away at our self-esteem, worth and purpose and it has created a large, deep pit where we can go to feel sorry for ourselves any time of day or night. It is a welcoming place and always reminds us of how many mistakes we have made, all the things that went wrong and just how bad everything is.  There is a special place within this canyon called “The Pity Pot” and you are welcome to sit on it 24 hours a day and think about how everything has turned to shit. Your perception of yourself and the world has hit a record low and it is very difficult to get out of this rut!  This place would like you to think that it is impossible to leave and that climbing out of this hole will kill you.  Truth is- you can leave any time you want. You may need some guidance and a helping hand – or two, but it IS absolutely possible to get yourself out of there. It’s time to trade in your real estate for a better future, starting NOW!

Lost In Space    There will always be plenty of information and opinions to suggest perfect outcomes and ideal situations. There are 101 ways to do ‘this,’ and 57 ways to do ‘that!” You want to try all of them, just knowing that you will find 1 that will be extraordinary! But first you have to assimilate ALL the information, with its endless possible scenarios to figure out what that perfect outcome will be before you try and implement anything! There are unlimited ifs, ands & buts. You want to KNOW before you DO anything so it will all be flawless!  It’s time to land. Pick one thing, something and test it out. Through trial, error, and experience, not thinking, you will find what you’ve been searching for.

It’s time to come back to reality. Like it or not, believe it or not, agree with it or not, that is what you need to accept and deal with. Plant your feet firmly on the ground, take a few deep breaths, find your awareness in THIS moment and steer your mind in a forward, positive direction. Create the best YOU and the NOW that could ever possibly BE.

The choice is and always was ours. We may not have realized it, someone could have taken our power away from us or we could have willingly handed it over thinking and hoping that someone else could do better for us than we could do for ourselves. It’s time to wake up, be aware and consciously make better choices.

Much Love,

Donna xx


 

Change Your Thoughts, Change Your Life – By Paige Vidrine

Article Written By Paige Vidrine

 

Are you stuck in a rut? You cant catch a break, your relationships aren’t working out and life just
keeps sending you curve balls. I used to ask myself, “Why me?” when things would go wrong. I
felt unappreciated at work, couldn’t make my own business successful and was raising two kids
all while going through a divorce. “I am doing everything I can to have a good life and nothing is
working out in my favor.” This was my reaction to any problem I would face until I learned the
most valuable lesson in my life. As I was trying to claw my way out of depression, I watched a
Tony Robbins video explaining that the way we frame events in our lives completely changes
who we become as individuals.

Imagine this, there is an entrepreneur trying to make a living selling a milk shake mixer.
Sales weren’t all that bad, but they weren’t all that good either. This entrepreneur had big
dreams but each endeavor he took on would come to a screeching halt. His relationships never
lasted and something always seemed to go wrong for him. If he would have framed his
circumstances by thinking, “Why me?”, he would have thrown in the towel or just given minimal
effort in his jobs. Instead, he was always looking at every failure as an opportunity for growth.
He thought, “What can I learn from this?” and kept on moving. Because of his determination to
keep going, he opened himself up to the entrepreneurship endeavor of a lifetime. He became
the co-founder of McDonalds, making hundreds of millions in his career. Ray Kroc and other
successful men and women find ways to frame their thoughts so that instead of sabotaging their
lives, they create something beautiful.

I have been inspired by stories like this, probably because my mom has a pretty cool
one herself. Listening to her rags to riches story always inspired me to study other successful
people and figure out what it is that makes them keep going in the face of adversity. I have
learned a lot in my studies and I can honestly say that I am a stronger person because I put into
practice the idea of thought framing. Here are a few pointers so you can help yourself start living life on your own terms:

1. Realize that you might just be sabotaging your own life. I want to start with this idea,
because so often people will find themselves in terrible situations over and over again and
then question why life just doesn’t work out for them. Eventually, the let downs and the pain
lead many people to just not really care enough anymore to try to make life any better. “It
never works out anyway so why try.”
For these type of people who have recurring heart ache, I want you to look at the
circumstance and think about whether or not you play any role in sabotaging your own life. I
like to think of an example of a young girl whose father was in and out of her life. She didn’t
realize it, but his irresponsible behavior taught her early on that she wasn’t really worth it. She
felt like if he cant stick around then she didn’t matter all that much. As she got older, she took
easy jobs that offered quick money because that was instant validation. She became a
compulsive spender because that too made her feel good in the moment. With every
opportunity or stroke of luck she received in life, she could never find a way to maximize her
potential. She associated with people who stayed in ruts themselves, always thinking that the
underdogs deserved love. These poor relationships with people who couldn’t catch a break,
pushed her further and further into her irresponsible lifestyle. Never once did she think that she
might need to make a change in the way she acts, handles money, deals with people, does
business. This story is one of ultimate sabotage. It is true that bad circumstances are not always
your fault, but what you do with those circumstances and the choices you make because of
them can either wrap you up into more of a mess or allow you to pull yourself out.
So stop for a moment and be honest with yourself. Think about whether or not your
choices and mindsets could possibly be sabotaging your success.

2. You have time. I was talking to a friend of mine who had lost her baby boy. I found that she
has such potential to be successful in life, but in the moments that mattered most, she would
make decisions that didn’t benefit her all too much. This led me to question her deep beliefs.
She explained to me that she believes that time just isn’t on your side. Hearing this made
me sad, because the way she framed her loss was in a way that couldn’t benefit her long
term. When you are always feeling like you’re running out of time, you will try to short cut
your way to results and that never builds a solid foundation for a successful life.
I used to do this myself. In my mid twenties I would think that I should have it all
together. I felt terrible for not even knowing what my passion actually was. This led me to feeling
constantly frustrated with life, causing me to focus on what I am not accomplishing. I finally
realized that time was on my side, that I could accomplish a lot in twenty years if I started now,
that I could make up for 5 years of unknowing in one year of intense focus and hard work.
Because I changed the way I viewed my time, I make the most out of every second of every
day. I try to make the best choices based on what I have decided that I want. I reach out to
people who I admire and let them teach me. Framing my mind this way has eased so much
anxiety and helps me to really focus on what matters most.

3. We all make mistakes. Own up to it. I used to hate when people would call me out for the
mistakes I would make. It was like a jab to my ego every time someone would mention my
shortcomings. I hated being wrong and messing up so badly that I would even lie to myself
when things wouldn’t go right. I would blame other people instead of owning up to my mistakes.
When things go wrong or situations turn out badly, it’s not beneficial to look at what role
others played in the situation before truly evaluating your role in the problem. My relationships
really took a turn for the better when I started disagreements off by simply saying, “I may be
wrong, but this is where I was coming from.” It has been amazing to see the benefits of simply
owning up to the mistakes I make in my life. I used to believe that admitting my shortcomings
would make me less of a person, but in reality it has made me more secure in myself and given
me the strength I need to move past problems quickly, not allowing them to get out of control.

4. Stop expecting not to struggle.
If comfort is your goal, then you will always be chasing something that is very elusive. I see
people every day on social media complaining every time something goes wrong in their lives.
Is it such a monumental event every time multiple things go awry in a day, that they feel the
need to share with their internet friend groups? It seems as though facing issues is an unusual
thing for these people. I cannot say I was never like this. Granted, I never used social media as
a tool to vent my frustrations, but I did at some point call friends to do just that. After I started
working towards a more positive life though, I realized that this was not beneficial. I also started
to see how griping when things went wrong could become an every day ordeal, because things
always go wrong. So instead of expecting them not to, I just made up in my mind that when they
did I would be ready for it. I would not expect a perfect life. I decided that life would be wonderful
even if I had a flat tire. I would change it and move on. I decided that I would be happy. Even
when my brother died, I found a way to use the grief and pain to fuel my passions. At the end of
the day, the rain will fall. I have found more joy in dancing in it than seeking shelter.

All in all, the greatest asset in my life has been the way that I have trained myself to think. At
one point my mindsets where chaining me down to a miserable existence. When I learned to
frame my thoughts properly, I stopped sabotaging my life, realized I had enough time to build
something significant, learned to build better relationships and how to enjoy the struggles life

brings. Life isn’t perfect now, but it is much more enjoyable. I have a new found hope and that is
all that I need to build life on my own terms.

Much Love & Gratitude

Paige xx

27 Affirmations That Will Change Your Life

Affirmations??

Affirmations are a very powerful tool that can be used daily and they can plant a seed within your mind which develop into a whole new way of thinking for you.

Affirmations can be used to inline you’re thinking about the results you desire in life and they can turn your negative thoughts into positive ones. Which will then work in harmony with the natural spiritual laws of the universe, to attract what it is you want to you.

What are Affirmations?

An affirmation is spoken or written statements that are read daily which can completely transform your thoughts and make your belief systems shift to a whole new level. When using affirmations you speak of already achieving the goals you desire. Which then shifts the mind to that level of achievement and so you start to believe you are what you want to be. When your mind shifts to this level the laws of the universe work in harmony with these new thoughts and draws everything to you that you need to become what it is you desire.

So basically if you read a simple paragraph of say 3 to 4 lines twice a day. You start to become what it is you truly want to be and believing you can be it. Before your very eyes, you will start attracting the things and people to yourself in order to make your goal possible.

If you use the same affirmation for 90 days and ready it twice daily you will start to really see a drastic change in your thoughts. I myself have an amazing story about how affirmations transformed my life and I will share this with you on the audio when I talk about your next exercise. Now to begin with you may think how the hell are a few lines going to change my life?

Just please trust me when I tell you that they do. In order for affirmations to work you need to place them somewhere that you will read them at least twice a day. I place my affirmations on my bathroom wall right next to the sink. This way I read them twice daily when I brush my teeth. In the whole time it takes me to brush my teeth I am repeating this paragraph over and over again. You need to have fun with it and turn it into a little game for yourself and see how many times you can read the paragraph in the time it takes you to brush your teeth.
In the next exercise, you are going to write an affirmation of your very own. You are going to write what you are going to read either out loud or to yourself twice daily. I want you to set a goal so high that it makes your knees tremble thinking about it and then I want you to write your affirmation in the present tense. I want it to read like you are already what it is you desire to be.

To begin with, it’s hard to decide what to write in an affirmation. So here are a few examples to help you get started:

• I am the master of my own destiny.
• I am happy and love myself from the inside out.
• Miracles happen in my life daily.
• I am a truly amazing person who lives life to the full.
• I attract health, wealth and happiness where ever I go.
• All my desires have come true daily.
• Everything I need to succeed lays within me
• I have love, success and happiness
• I have the perfect weight I desire
• My finical situation becomes more wealthy each day
• I am a money magnet
• I attract opportunities to make money every single day
• My body is giving me the gift of great health
• I love myself and everyone around me
• I am surrounded by love

There are different ways that you can use affirmations. You could just write one sentence on several posts it notes. Like the example sentences above or you could write a paragraph which states your entire goal in one. You can then place this in one area of your house that you know you will go to at least twice a day. You have to decide how this will fit into your life the best and place it somewhere that you won’t forget to read it each day.

I asked The Missing Piece Magazine followers to share some of the affirmations that have changed their own lives, here is what they shared:

I am lovable, loving, and loved. Lynette Davis loveselflovebiz.com

My children inspire me to be the person I strive to be. Donna Anne Pace

Be the person others aspire to be….. be kind always, be passionate about what your mission is…. inspire and others to follow their dreams. Support, encourage and uplift one another. Dr Michele Langbein www.leadersempowerlives.com

I am my Master teacher who can find all guidance within my heart. Ellen Rich www.act2.expert

Wendy Hutchinson: There is no room for negativity in my life. Put that bitch in a box and stand in your power. www.alinealifecoaching.com

Mary Jean Marquez “It is possible to be a blessing to others while in the midst of your own difficulties!” -Mary Jean Marquez Women Uplifting Women / Women Uplifting Women / Inspiring Healthy Living – Whole Clean Plant-Based Food – Exercise

Vanessa Carter, I am filled with divine wisdom, divine intelligence, divine love and divine abundance and so it is.

I am on fire with LOVE for All That Is! – Trilby Johnson www.trilbyjohnsontheconnective.com

Aime Hutton “Inch by inch dreams and goals come true!” – Aime Hutton www.inchbyinchempowerment.com

Suzanne Gabli I am Aurora Borealis. The divine is leading me. All is well.

Sylvia Friedman Self-love is the only wealth we need.

Now it’s time to write yours!
Here’s to writing your own life and future reality!

Much Love

Kate xx


 

7 Questions to Ask Yourself About Your Relationship Part 6

Q6, Are you allowed to be you?

 

You know you have a fantastic relationship when your partner supports 1000% in everything you do. They never hold you back from anything you want to do and nor do they judge you for it…..They simply let YOU be YOU !.

Every person on the planet has the God- given right to do exactly what they want to do and when they want to do it. If your partner complains about the way you dress or tells you not to wear makeup, then this is completely wrong. If they hold you back from doing what you love (be it career wise or stopping you from following your dreams)… then this is wrong also.

A relationship should be one long, happy, successful journey through time, where each partner loves, honours and respects each other’s wishes. You should be able to have your own individual life as well as having your life together. Respect is a two way street in a relationship and you have to give just as much as you take from that person.

Stay tuned for 1 more questions and 1 more exercise,

Much Love,

Kate x

7 Questions to Ask Yourself About Your Relationship Part 2

Here is question 2 to highlight the #Metoo campaign

Q2, Do you receive good compliments from your partner?

 

We all need to be complimented on making us feel good in a relationship. Compliments boost our self-esteem. Hearing the nice compliments gives us the self-confidence we need that enables us to conquer whatever it is we desire.

If we receive bad compliments from our partner, then it can be very shattering to our self-confidence, leaving us with very low self-esteem. It can also put us at an all-time low where we don’t feel worthy of anything. It makes us feel that we could never accomplish anything we want to do.

In many relationships where one partner has insecurities of their own, they tend to drag the other partner down to make themselves feel just that little bit better. Certain comments made to us like “isn’t it about time you lose weight” or “You can’t go out dressed like that!” leave us feeling down about ourselves. The impact of these certain comments can be shattering to our feelings.

Usually, the reason why these comments are made by your partner is due to them having maybe put on a few extra pounds in the “comfy stage” of your relationship and he’s now scared that your wearing of that tight fitted dress will bring attention from other men. So his insecurities are on show by projecting them on to you….( To hell with what he thinks!, wear that tight fitted dress. In 30 years you will be wishing back the figure you have now!.)

If you are in a relationship where your partner does tend to make bad comments to you then the exercise below will prove how many times they make them.

Exercise two:

Take a little money box or piggy bank, or even a jar, (as long as it is not a see- through one). Each time your partner makes a bad comment about you, put a penny in the money box, continue to do this each time a bad comment is made and carry it on for at least 21 days.

After the 21 days open the jar and take out the pennies you have put and count them. This will now show you how many times your partner made you feel bad about yourself in the past three weeks.

(I asked a friend of mine to conduct this exercise herself,  and after 21 days she had $1.75 in her jar,  which concludes that her partner had put her down 175 times in three weeks !.)

As hard as these things are, bringing awareness to a problem means we can make change.

Stay tuned for 5 more questions and 5 more exercises,

Much Love,

Kate xx


 

Beliefs and Affirmations- The No Non-sense Approach By Stephen Garrett

Article Written By Stephen Garrett

A lot of attention has been given to positive affirmations over the years especially in this time of New Aged Spirituality. There is a tendency to lean towards the light and avoid the dark at all costs. Well, the cost is actually in avoiding the dark, as that is where our personal power lies and also where it gets all knotted up.

Buried in our dark side are ALL the limiting self-beliefs that are our true magnets – magnets that draw to us those things we want and more those thing we do not want. These dark side magnets must first be re-polarized before any affirmations will have a permanent and lasting effect. If we simply lay positive affirmations on top of these unearthed and unhealed limiting self-beliefs all the laws of attraction will avoid the new lawyer of positive affirmations and instead attract what our core beliefs demand.

Positive affirmations painted on top of negative unconscious self-beliefs is much like applying a coat of paint on top of an ageing, cracked, existing paint job. It looks great initially but over a very short time period the cracks show their true colors and all the efforts of the new paint job were for naught.

If you intend to have a fantastic new paint job last the test of time you must first do the hard work of scrapping off all the old paint and getting back to the original surface of the wood. Once down to the clear base the new paint job will hold true and look as good as new for a long period of time.

Well, if it is true for a paint job it is also true for affirmations. They will not hold to an old cracked belief system not matter how much effort you apply. The old cracked belief system will always show through and the laws of attraction will bring to you what the old paint job has always brought you. You need to scrape away all those old limiting self-beliefs and get down to the base you – your divine spiritual heart.

Once the scrapping has effectively removed those once powerful dark side, negative beliefs the way is clear for new beliefs in the form of affirmations. So do your scraping work! Ask yourself these types of questions and be brutally honest;

  • How do I keep myself small?
  • How do I really think of myself?
  • If I am being honest with myself what are some of my negative identities?
  • When someone gives me a compliment what is my first thought?
  • When I make a mistake how do I really talk to myself?

These sorts of questions get at the negative self-beliefs lying beneath the surface in the shadows of your emotional mind/body. They must be brought into the light of day so you can de-identify from them and free yourself in order that you are able to receive the new paint job in the form of positive affirmations.

Without doing this preparation work; without scraping away the old paint; without getting down to the original clear wood surface you are simply wasting your time doing positive affirmations.

Much Love,

Stephen


Over the past decade I have spoken to groups as large as 1,200 people and more intimate groups from 15 to 200 folks. I have spoken in person at conferences such as IdeaCity, Double D’s Death and Dying Conference, the Ageing and Spirituality Conference in Los Angeles, the Bereavement Ontario Networks 25th Annual Conference, along with numerous radio and television shows.

I currently work with such organizations as hospices, professional continuing education organizations, colleges, communities, and churches creating tailor-made workshops to suit each group’s unique needs and learning styles. Learn more at www.stephengarrett.ca/