Written By Carol Talbot
It’s commonly known that feelings and emotions that release vibrational resistance and lift you to a higher dimension, frequency, vibration and energy are peace, joy, love, acceptance and willingness while emotions such as anger, pride, fear, grief and apathy lower your levels of energy.
In his book, Power vs. Force, Dr David R Hawkins, MD, PhD, used a muscle testing technique from Applied Kinesiology to calibrate levels of human consciousness. Interestingly, one of the biggest barriers to raising consciousness is love. He says the reason the level of love is so difficult to achieve is sadly because our ego is so rooted in the physical domain as opposed to the spiritual domain. And I have found this to be true. Many of the people I have worked with find it challenging to love and accept themselves and so seek that love outside of themselves.
For example, Jodie’s career was booming so she was thrilled when her company asked her to relocate overseas to take up a position with greater responsibility. However, Jodie was also truly, madly and deeply in love. Realizing that her boyfriend was in the midst of family struggles she made the decision to forego the promotion and relocation opportunity. Shortly after she left the company, the relationship came to a close and it was only then that Jodie realized that she had never spent one moment asking what she wanted. ‘I was so immersed in him and his needs. When I owned up to that I also came to realize how little I loved myself. That is when my healing journey truly started. “
Let me ask you how you fall in love with another person? It’s not a step by step process, is it? Sometimes it’s instant attraction, while other times it takes a while. The relationship may blossom over time through friendship and gradually love grows deeper. Or maybe you fall in and out of love a few times before a commitment is made.
The love you want from others is actually yourself calling out, “please love me.”
So how do you fall in love with yourself? How do you get to know who you truly are? When I think back to times of angst and anxiety, it would appear that self-love is not an off-on switch. It’s not a matter of ‘I don’t love myself and now I do,’ or looking at yourself in the mirror and saying ‘I love you,’ when deep down you don’t. Some people go on personal development programs and get results and some do not. Others read a book and sometimes they need to read the book twice before a lightbulb moment occurs. Perhaps it’s a chance meeting, or a time when you are caught in the quiet. It seems to be an evolution and journey of exploring, evolving and awakening.
One of my friends, Julie-Ann Odell said “I look at the younger version of myself with unconditional love, acceptance and intrigue. Since gaining a deeper awareness 16 years ago, I have had the courage and awareness to bless all the people and situations that I attracted back then. I hated them and resented what I had attracted until I realized the gift is knowing they were, and are, a part of what has made me who I am today. They didn’t change, so I had to change myself. It was a long journey and life has been my greatest teacher. I bless all those experiences and people that were sent to my path, no matter how dark or dismal they were back then.”
The biggest relationship you will ever have is the one you will have with yourself so start by falling in love yourself!
ABOUT Carol Talbot
Carol is considered is an inspiration in the inspiration business. She is sought-after by organisations and individuals seeking a learning consultant, thought-partner, and keynote speaker ‘with a difference’. It is her uncanny, compelling ability to bring the edginess of systems such as NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) – she is a master trainer, and the fiery energy of Fire Walking to resonate with the ‘coal face’ of business and life that truly sets Carol alight, and apart, from others in the arena. Indeed, for more than two decades, she has stepped out to help fire out creativity and greatness within individuals and teams worldwide, by engaging them with her wise words and compelling delivery; one-on-one or to an audience of 1000s, when Carol speaks, people listen. Her latest book, YOU the Divine Genius is now an Amazon International Best-seller.