Article Written By Alyssa Cruise
When we think of self-esteem, we often see it as something that we have or do not have, rather than a way of being. We hear about having high self-esteem or low self-esteem as if there is a sliding scale of esteem that we must compare ourselves too.
In truth, self-esteem is a verb which means; the process of esteeming one’s self.
In other words, the process of boosting our self –esteem begins with us seeing the value within ourselves.
With this in mind, below are five tips to boost our self-esteem to promote a happier and healthier view of ourselves.
Believe In Yourself
One of the first steps we must take to boost our own self-esteem is to change the way we think and feel about ourselves. This is a process that does not always happen overnight, and for the majority of the population is an ongoing journey throughout most of our lives.
When we begin to take responsibility for the way we feel, we empower ourselves. We take charge of our own self-concept which includes; our self worth, beliefs about ourselves, our talents, abilities, potential and value.
Celebrate Your Six Biggest Successes
The more we celebrate our past wins in life, the more belief and confidence we build within our abilities. Sometimes people struggle to think of their successes, and therefore give up on this exercise. However, there is a way for us to contemplate our wins in a very logical and objective structure, which can help us to see how much we have all grown on our life’s journey.
How To Identify Our Successes.
Step one is to split your life into sections. This will vary depending on each of our ages, but for example, 0-15, 16-30, 30-45.
Step two, you will now choose two successes you experienced within each of these time frames.
Step three, once you have discovered six life successes go back, and continue this same pattern. You may find that before too long you have identified very long list of successes, which you can then celebrate, with great belief in yourself.
After this exercise is complete, moving forwards, we can make a weekly or even daily list of our achievements. This will allow us to see our own progression from week to week, and will ultimately increase of self-belief and self-esteem.
Make Integrity a Priority
One of the best ways we can boost our own self-esteem, is to make integrity a priority. Every agreement we make with others’, we also make with ourselves. When we stick to our word, we honour our integrity. If we don’t follow through on our word, we can ultimately lose faith and even trust within ourselves. This lack of trust within causes our self-esteem to plummet. By keeping our commitments and honouring our integrity we increase our self-esteem and sense of personal power.
Take Some Risks
The higher our self-esteem is, the more likely we are to take successful risks. This is not about risk taking in a ‘negative’ sense, but rather risks that lead us greater success and even happiness. When we lack belief in ourselves, we can also lack gumption and drive. This can lead us to feeling deflated and unsure of ourselves. Taking risks, however small they may seem to begin with, can really help us to develop a deep sense of self-esteem.
Demonstrate Your Talents
When our self-esteem is low, we often turn to thinking negatively about ourselves and our abilities. It is important within these times that we go within and remind ourselves of the things we are truly good at, and the things we do enjoy.
For example, if you are good at sport join a local team. If you are good at painting, showcase your work. If you are good at singing, post a video online or make a professional recording for yourself, friends or family.
When we engage in the things that we do well at, we are able to grow and flourish our self-esteem in tremendous ways.
- Believe In Yourself
- Celebrate Your Six Biggest Successes
- Make Integrity A Priority
- Take Some Risks
- Demonstrate Your Talents