ARE YOU STUCK IN THE MIDDLE OF A BRAINSTORM? By Donna Davis

Each day, thousands, if not millions of thoughts, cross our minds. Every waking moment is chock full of ideas, lists, to-dos, regrets, conversations that have happened or that need to take place soon, where to go, what to eat, who to call………whew- and that’s only the tip of the iceberg!

If we took an inventory of our thoughts we would find that we spend way too much time “in our heads” with endless mind chatter and clutter. Most of it is useless because it’s in the past and cannot be changed no matter how often or hard we think about it. Finding solutions now to situations of the past won’t help due to the fact that you can’t go back and change things. Stop repeating history in your head! Our best lesson is to learn from the past and do things differently, if we choose, should the same or similar situation arise. Like it or not folks, it’s “onwards and upwards.” If you want half a chance to be productive in life you need to make peace with the past, make “NOW” awesome, and take action for an even better future!

One major obstacle is the incredible amount of negativity, fear and self-doubt that we have been bombarded with over the years whether it be conscious or subconscious. It’s all around us each and every day from several different directions. It seems virtually impossible to get away from it. We almost absent-mindedly get swept up into it and then find ourselves feeling little, weak and incomplete due to the impossibility of measuring up to unrealistic and unattainable standards or ideas. We are human, not robots.

So where do YOU fit in to all of this? Where do you find your peace, your confidence, your success? Do you leave that up to society and your environment? Do you blindly follow the status quo or do you realize that you deserve so much more?

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Here are some suggestions to take control of your mind and thoughts for your highest and best use:

SHIFT YOUR FOCUS

  • It has been said “Energy flows where focus goes.” What thoughts are occupying your space?
  • So, What Are You THINKING? Is it constructive or destructive?
  • Is what you think “In your own voice?” or is it someone elses view or expectation of you?

BELIEVE

  • Remember the famous quote: “Whether you think you can, or think you can’t, you’re right!”
  • What is it that you truly believe that you can do or accomplish?
  • Set your sails to that and start in that direction. As with anything you may have to adjust your sails to course correct – it’s okay because it’s all a part of the journey and process of getting you to your destination.

START SMALL

  • Yes, there is plenty to do yet you are 1 person and Rome wasn’t built in a day, remember?
  • How can you break down the whole goal into smaller actionable steps that are comfortable for you?
  • Be patient with yourself and chart out a step by step course in an attainable sequence.
  • Add in checkpoints for your progress and see if you need to reassess, push forward or take a break to build up your strength (of body AND mind) before continuing forward.

 

What Problem has you stuck right now? Can you see it as a situation with a solution rather than a problem? How can you turn your perception and perspective of it around in your best interest rather than be imprisoned by the thought of being stuck in it forever?

Most times we procrastinate and say “I’ll do it tomorrow.” That means tomorrow doesn’t start with a clean slate if things are endlessly added to it as a scapegoat or catch-all for what you did not do/say and things that were cleverly avoided yesterday. There are only so many hours in a day. Avoidance today does not buy you extra time tomorrow- quite the contrary- it steals your tomorrow of peace since the same undone task or topic keeps popping-up.

So, what is your CHOICE, right here and NOW to put things into a better perspective for you and have your thoughts and ideas work FOR you, not against you?  What is the next right step/action that you need to take that will move you in a forward direction?  You are smack dab in the middle of your life. If you take a step back and be completely honest with yourself you WILL know how to organize your thoughts into a productive pace that can set you free from the brain storm going on in your head.

Of course it’s easier said than done only because you’ve been under the conditioning of old habits. Are you ready to use your BRAIN POWER to create new habits of success and happiness?

Are your thoughts holding you hostage or are you in control of the productivity, expansion, and enjoyment of YOUR life?

Think about THAT!

And remember…It’s all in your mind!

 

Thank you for reading,

Donna xx

Stop Saying YES! – Written By Kate Batten

overwhelm, usually a posh word which roughly translated means “I do not know how to say no” syndrome. It is a common thing so don’t worry, we have all gone through life feeling guilty if we say no to somebody. You don’t want to let people down or feel like you are letting them down, so instead, you say yes, yes, yes, all the time!

Only the issue is you keep on saying yes, and before you know it your plate is so stacked high with so much shit to do that you are so stressed out you have zero time for anything else. You then turn into a complete stranger to your close ones because you are never around, and your husband and kids don’t have one clean pair of pants between them!

I have had many many clients over the years who have become so overwhelmed with saying yes far too many times.

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Then, before they know it they are stressed out, burnt out and don’t even want to carry on building their dream because they feel they don’t have what it takes in the first place.

Trust me, you have every ounce of what it takes to be a success in your life, The key to that success is only focusing on a few things and becoming great at them few things. Only because your friend is doing a webinar, download program and writing a book all at the same time does not mean you have to do the same.

Dividing your focus between 20 different things weakens your results compared to focusing on one or 2 things and mastering them.

Yes, I have been there, experienced that and have the wrinkles to prove it.

The question you need to ask yourself is:

Do you want to be great and successful at a few things that completely sell out all the time and have a thriving business?

Or…

Do you want to be sat there stressed out to high heaven with no time, energy and be broke because your products/services are not selling?

It’s not exactly rocket science now is it?

There is a lot to learn on your road to success. There is a right way to do things and a completely wrong way to do things. I have experienced both ways and trust me I prefer the way things are today in my life and business, then they were 2 years ago!

I stopped saying yes to people and realised that my self-respect to myself was more important and so was my health.

I started to focus on a few things rather then trying to be Jack of all trades and master of none. I started saying the word NO more and meaning it.

I started working less and earning more money, and I started to have more time for myself and my family which resulted in me becoming a better coach and a better business owner.

You are in complete control of your life, and overwhelm is only a reality of you saying yes far too much. It’s time to start saying NO!

Thank you for reading,

Kate x


Kate is an 18 x International Best-Selling Author, International Coach and Creator of The Missing Piece Magazine. As a coach Kate helps authors and professionals grow their platforms by teaching them how to publish, market and sell their books to international best-seller status. Kate has the honour and pleasure of consulting TV personalities and award-winning Hollywood film directors, she has a real passion to teach established business owners how to earn up to $180,000 with one book BEFORE it even goes to print. Kate currently holds the position of Publishing Specialist with the GWEN Network. Find out more at www.katebatten.com

Beliefs – Creating my manifesto Written By Kirsten Wreggitt

Written By  Kirsten Wreggitt

I’d like to think I formed my own beliefs but more often I found I simply adopt the beliefs of my family and culture. It isn’t because I didn’t want to think for myself; it’s because it’s downright hard to hear anything above the noise of the world! We truly can’t even hear ourselves think.

Deep inside I knew that I was battling with the current belief system. I didn’t identify with many things people were pursuing, things they were chasing, or ways they wanted to live. It all just made me tired. I needed to slow things down and turn off the noise so I could think for myself.

You can’t run around with no beliefs. So many of our daily decisions are put through the filter of our belief system. Without clarity on what my heart wanted I was struggling to make decisions. I decided to take a deep dive and the time needed to get clarity on what I held true.

It took a while. I read a lot, I wrote a lot, and I went on many long walks to think a lot. My belief system slowly formed in phrases here and there and I sifted through all of those sound bites and found a single one that summed it all up. In the end my beliefs could be summed up by this: the average life is extraordinary.

That single sentence doesn’t seem like much. In fact you might be asking yourself how it could even be true. I realized that also and I didn’t believe it at first either. After all, that would mean that all the effort I have been putting into achieving my goals and dreams would be wasted, right?

I want more than an average life.

Over time, the more I thought about the ramifications of this sentence the more I saw the truth in it. Most of us are average, and we are expending huge amounts of energy and money to fight against it every day. We are so busy striving, sweating, dieting, reading, studying, primping, and prodding.  So much effort and focus is being placed on how we could be more.

The fight is making me tired. I am not focusing on what I already have. I am not enjoying the present moment and I may just strive my entire life away without ever taking notice! This one little sentence was the core belief I heard when I shut off the noise of our culture. I decided to write the Average is Extraordinary Manifesto: How Your Life Is Anything But Mediocre.

Creating my own manifesto made decision making easier (not to mention getting out of bed each day). Having my beliefs in front of me gives me grounding when the world around me shakes and it is my line in the sand to live my life by my beliefs and not those of the world. I have found my own beliefs from the small voice that is hard to hear under the noise of the world.

Thank you for reading,

Kirsten x


Biography:

“Average lives can be extraordinary.” —Kirsten Wreggitt

Kirsten Wreggitt grew up in a small town but her big heart and curious mind have taken her on a few journeys. Each change shaped her view of the world and she shares that through her writing. She has written her manifesto “Average is Extraordinary: How Your Life is Anything But Mediocre” and a memoir “Before I Let You Go: Stories for My Grown Son” which will be available November 27, 2017. Other pieces of her writing can be found on her blog at www.kirstenwreggitt.com.

She currently lives, writes, and works in Calgary, Alberta.

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Radical Recovery of Rob Decker


Fitness, faith and friends delivered Rob Decker from the depths of despair to the heights of a clean lifestyle. Written by Suzanna Cullen Hamilton Photographed by Shane O’Donnell.

Originally published in Southbay HEALTH Magazine Spring 2017, a publication of Moon Tide Media  http://www.oursouthbay.com/

 


Written by Suzanna Cullen Hamilton | Photographed by Shane O’Donnell

 

Opioid addiction claims more lives each year than firearms or automobiles. Growing up with parents who were alcoholics with opioid and drug addictions presented Rob with an almost insurmountable hurdle. Although Rob now has a thriving career as a fitness instructor—particularly to youth and people recovering from back surgery, his path was riddled with the landmines of addiction and negative messaging.

“It’s impossible to not be affected when you grow up with meth-addicted parents who abuse drugs and alcohol,” says Rob. He started using marijuana at age 16, and by his early 20s he was taking Ecstasy and cocaine. “I was on a fast path, and my father told me that I’d never make it,” he continues.

A life of constant addiction culminated one dark night that could have ended Rob’s life. After a drunken argument with his then-girlfriend that included a call to the police, Rob decided to take his own life by jumping from a building.

“In that moment, I was ready to end the nightmare,” says Rob. Although friends had recently taken him to a prayer service at a nearby church where Rob says he “felt chills on my spine and knew the Lord’s presence,” he wanted to go.

Fortunately, Rob hit part of the building, and it broke his fall. Although he shattered his back, arm and wrist and collapsed a lung, he was alive.

It took five years and $2 million in multiple surgeries to heal Rob’s fractured back and arm, and he had to learn to walk again. “During that time, I learned to understand deep physical pain; the fundamentals and patience required for recovery; and I learned that my faith would deliver me through it,” says Rob.

 

Titanium rods, screws and cages now hold Rob’s body together, while his faith holds his soul together. He’s also eliminated all drug and alcohol use.

Today Rob has a thriving business as a personal trainer at Equinox. “I want to give people hope,” says Rob. He and his wife, Alyssa, live in Torrance, and they welcomed a son, Caleb, in 2016.

When asked what he’d say to his teenaged self, Rob replies, “You can be whatever you want to be, and be the best you can be.” Caleb is going to have a great pillar in his father, and back surgery patients have an advocate in Rob.

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Words Have Power – Written By Jo Cruise

Written By Jo Cruise

A great way to indicate to the Universe what you want in your life is to use positive affirmations. This sets your intention, as the thoughts and words you express are powerful vibrations. These signal to the Universe that you’re ready to receive the abundant blessings of an infinite and Divine cosmos.

When you affirm from a place where your unlimited creative potential resides, you can easily manifest your dreams. Intentions are the pre-cursor to action and they determine the outcome of the energy you create. Really, this is how important affirmations are!

When you’re aligned to your soul purpose you honour this by affirming your true intent. Igniting your passion in life is key to unlocking your individual and unique gifts.
If your life has a common thread running throughout it which has at its centre; joy and love this can be expressed through your inspired creativity. When you light a flame to your passion, you start a chain reaction that fuels all your desires, hopes & dreams. What’s not to love about that!?

Begin each day by setting your intention for that day. The language you use creates the life you live. This is a fundamental aspect of living consciously ~ in the sense of being mindful of your thoughts, words and actions. On waking each morning and as soon as you open your eyes say out loud an affirmation.  Whatever pops into your head and feels right and authentic just say it. Affirm it 10 times, notice how saying these words makes you feel. Do you feel excitement, love or really connected to God/Goddess, Source, the angels or whatever else your belief system is?

Observing how saying this affirmation makes you feel is important, because you need to allow the energy of these words to infuse every cell of your being. Let them soak into your etheric field and feel the vibration of your affirmation lift your spirits for the rest of the day.

I’ve always been captivated by language, of how the formation of words can weave a spell upon our hearts and touch our souls. Since I was a young child words have held a fascination for me. So, in late 1999, I was really interested to hear about Dr. Masaru Emoto, who had researched what the physical impact of words appeared to have on water. In his fascinating book ‘The Hidden Messages of Water’, the late Dr. Emoto conducted studies which he claimed showed how human consciousness affects the structure of frozen water crystals.

In a series of fascinating studies carried out over the next two decades, Dr. Emoto would reveal  water’s physical response to words. He demonstrated how the words used affected the formation of frozen water crystalline structures. The findings concluded that negative words caused the water crystals to form grotesque and ugly shapes, while loving and positive words allowed the crystals to form perfect fractal formations. Considering that humans are made up of approximately 70% water, it’s easy to see how our thoughts and internal dialogue could influence every cell in our body. Knowing this we should all be more mindful of our self-talk and in our day to day verbal interactions with others.

When we take responsibility for the words we use, we create a reality based upon them. How do you intend to live your life? What effect do you want to have on others, on our world? How can your words bring about peace, healing, love and compassion? Use your words wisely, be a ‘conscious conversationalist’.  Let your words flow come from a place of love and gentleness and let your intentions be the catalyst of change as your positive affirmations begin to shape the world in which we are all part of.

 

“Today I surround myself with an abundance of positivity in my life ~ I attract abundant opportunities, helpful situations & people into my life. I’m a magnet for positive possibilities & I hold gratitude in my heart for all the abundant blessings that are in my life”

 

 Much Love,

Jo xx


Jo Cruise Coach and Author

Joanne helps creative and inspired coaches, therapists, healers and spiritual entrepreneurs to gain more clarity, confidence and courage to achieve the success they deserve. She does this through using a unique blend of integrated wellness coaching tools and techniques, that empower her clients to realise the fullest expression of their soul and to birth their inspired ideas into the world.

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Beliefs & Affirmations – Written By Hayley Young

Written By Hayley Young

 

When you truly believe in yourself, anything is possible! Affirmations is one of my favorite topics, and I can speak from personal experience when I say they work, they actually work!

Beliefs are what we think of ourselves. They create our lives and our futures, they are the cause of everything we think, say and do. Many of our beliefs are formed unconsciously as children and through personal experiences, but at any time our mind can be reprogrammed by our thoughts and affirmations.

To change our core beliefs about ourselves we need to be ready to start our journey of self-improvement and becoming the best version of ourselves. My journey first started several years ago when my friend shared a documentary with me, you may of her of it, The Secret by Rhonda Byrne. I was immediately hooked, and instantly life felt different, more positive and happier. By the time I went to bed, my affirmations were written, and I have stuck by them since that night. They have changed over time as I have had my achievements, but I truly believe in them.

Daily affirmations reprogram your brain with your new beliefs and views of yourself. You see yourself differently; think more positively, and confidence and self-esteem develop. You might not realize it at the time, but when you look back, you will see the personal journey you have taken. In the future, you won’t recognize the person you used to be, in the best possible way.

Decide who and where you want to be in life in the future. You need to be clear about what you want and set goals around what you’d like to achieve. Then you can write your affirmations. You can also make a note of any negative thoughts you have about yourself and write the counterpart down in an affirmation. Put them in places you will see every day (fridge, mirror, phone screensaver, laptop background, etc) and say them in from of the mirror every morning and every evening.

Affirmation Tips:

Write your affirmation in the present tense.

Start with ‘I’ or ‘My’.

Make sure they are positive.

Add an emotion such as ‘I feel so excited that…’.

Feel like it has already happened.

I hope this helps you on your own journey, thank you for reading.

Much Love,

Hayley xx


I am 5ft 5/6ish, dark blonde hair (often dye it red), blue eyes, happy-go-lucky, easy going, always happy and up for a laugh. Love travelling. Life is to short to be miserable!! you can connect with me right here: https://www.facebook.com/hayley.young.9237

Change Your Thoughts, Change Your Life – By Paige Vidrine

Article Written By Paige Vidrine

 

Are you stuck in a rut? You cant catch a break, your relationships aren’t working out and life just
keeps sending you curve balls. I used to ask myself, “Why me?” when things would go wrong. I
felt unappreciated at work, couldn’t make my own business successful and was raising two kids
all while going through a divorce. “I am doing everything I can to have a good life and nothing is
working out in my favor.” This was my reaction to any problem I would face until I learned the
most valuable lesson in my life. As I was trying to claw my way out of depression, I watched a
Tony Robbins video explaining that the way we frame events in our lives completely changes
who we become as individuals.

Imagine this, there is an entrepreneur trying to make a living selling a milk shake mixer.
Sales weren’t all that bad, but they weren’t all that good either. This entrepreneur had big
dreams but each endeavor he took on would come to a screeching halt. His relationships never
lasted and something always seemed to go wrong for him. If he would have framed his
circumstances by thinking, “Why me?”, he would have thrown in the towel or just given minimal
effort in his jobs. Instead, he was always looking at every failure as an opportunity for growth.
He thought, “What can I learn from this?” and kept on moving. Because of his determination to
keep going, he opened himself up to the entrepreneurship endeavor of a lifetime. He became
the co-founder of McDonalds, making hundreds of millions in his career. Ray Kroc and other
successful men and women find ways to frame their thoughts so that instead of sabotaging their
lives, they create something beautiful.

I have been inspired by stories like this, probably because my mom has a pretty cool
one herself. Listening to her rags to riches story always inspired me to study other successful
people and figure out what it is that makes them keep going in the face of adversity. I have
learned a lot in my studies and I can honestly say that I am a stronger person because I put into
practice the idea of thought framing. Here are a few pointers so you can help yourself start living life on your own terms:

1. Realize that you might just be sabotaging your own life. I want to start with this idea,
because so often people will find themselves in terrible situations over and over again and
then question why life just doesn’t work out for them. Eventually, the let downs and the pain
lead many people to just not really care enough anymore to try to make life any better. “It
never works out anyway so why try.”
For these type of people who have recurring heart ache, I want you to look at the
circumstance and think about whether or not you play any role in sabotaging your own life. I
like to think of an example of a young girl whose father was in and out of her life. She didn’t
realize it, but his irresponsible behavior taught her early on that she wasn’t really worth it. She
felt like if he cant stick around then she didn’t matter all that much. As she got older, she took
easy jobs that offered quick money because that was instant validation. She became a
compulsive spender because that too made her feel good in the moment. With every
opportunity or stroke of luck she received in life, she could never find a way to maximize her
potential. She associated with people who stayed in ruts themselves, always thinking that the
underdogs deserved love. These poor relationships with people who couldn’t catch a break,
pushed her further and further into her irresponsible lifestyle. Never once did she think that she
might need to make a change in the way she acts, handles money, deals with people, does
business. This story is one of ultimate sabotage. It is true that bad circumstances are not always
your fault, but what you do with those circumstances and the choices you make because of
them can either wrap you up into more of a mess or allow you to pull yourself out.
So stop for a moment and be honest with yourself. Think about whether or not your
choices and mindsets could possibly be sabotaging your success.

2. You have time. I was talking to a friend of mine who had lost her baby boy. I found that she
has such potential to be successful in life, but in the moments that mattered most, she would
make decisions that didn’t benefit her all too much. This led me to question her deep beliefs.
She explained to me that she believes that time just isn’t on your side. Hearing this made
me sad, because the way she framed her loss was in a way that couldn’t benefit her long
term. When you are always feeling like you’re running out of time, you will try to short cut
your way to results and that never builds a solid foundation for a successful life.
I used to do this myself. In my mid twenties I would think that I should have it all
together. I felt terrible for not even knowing what my passion actually was. This led me to feeling
constantly frustrated with life, causing me to focus on what I am not accomplishing. I finally
realized that time was on my side, that I could accomplish a lot in twenty years if I started now,
that I could make up for 5 years of unknowing in one year of intense focus and hard work.
Because I changed the way I viewed my time, I make the most out of every second of every
day. I try to make the best choices based on what I have decided that I want. I reach out to
people who I admire and let them teach me. Framing my mind this way has eased so much
anxiety and helps me to really focus on what matters most.

3. We all make mistakes. Own up to it. I used to hate when people would call me out for the
mistakes I would make. It was like a jab to my ego every time someone would mention my
shortcomings. I hated being wrong and messing up so badly that I would even lie to myself
when things wouldn’t go right. I would blame other people instead of owning up to my mistakes.
When things go wrong or situations turn out badly, it’s not beneficial to look at what role
others played in the situation before truly evaluating your role in the problem. My relationships
really took a turn for the better when I started disagreements off by simply saying, “I may be
wrong, but this is where I was coming from.” It has been amazing to see the benefits of simply
owning up to the mistakes I make in my life. I used to believe that admitting my shortcomings
would make me less of a person, but in reality it has made me more secure in myself and given
me the strength I need to move past problems quickly, not allowing them to get out of control.

4. Stop expecting not to struggle.
If comfort is your goal, then you will always be chasing something that is very elusive. I see
people every day on social media complaining every time something goes wrong in their lives.
Is it such a monumental event every time multiple things go awry in a day, that they feel the
need to share with their internet friend groups? It seems as though facing issues is an unusual
thing for these people. I cannot say I was never like this. Granted, I never used social media as
a tool to vent my frustrations, but I did at some point call friends to do just that. After I started
working towards a more positive life though, I realized that this was not beneficial. I also started
to see how griping when things went wrong could become an every day ordeal, because things
always go wrong. So instead of expecting them not to, I just made up in my mind that when they
did I would be ready for it. I would not expect a perfect life. I decided that life would be wonderful
even if I had a flat tire. I would change it and move on. I decided that I would be happy. Even
when my brother died, I found a way to use the grief and pain to fuel my passions. At the end of
the day, the rain will fall. I have found more joy in dancing in it than seeking shelter.

All in all, the greatest asset in my life has been the way that I have trained myself to think. At
one point my mindsets where chaining me down to a miserable existence. When I learned to
frame my thoughts properly, I stopped sabotaging my life, realized I had enough time to build
something significant, learned to build better relationships and how to enjoy the struggles life

brings. Life isn’t perfect now, but it is much more enjoyable. I have a new found hope and that is
all that I need to build life on my own terms.

Much Love & Gratitude

Paige xx