Here is question 3 in the highlight of the #Metoo campaign
Q3. Do you have to nag your partner to get even the simplest jobs done?
We all know that feeling of frustration when we ask somebody to do something for us and then we end up doing it anyway.
If in your relationship it is rare this happens then you know your partner has genuinely forgotten whatever it is you asked them to do. However, if you find this to be a recurring thing and you find yourself getting irritated by it daily, then you know that really your partner can’t be bothered to take even 5 minutes out of his 24 hours to complete a simple task for you. This would then result in you nagging at them and it usually causes arguments or you adopting the “I will do everything” attitude which could end in you wearing yourself out mentally, emotionally and physically.
Relationships are supposed to be 100/100 and if yours is 90/10 then you know something has to be done to rectify it quickly before you become either a doormat to your partner or so frustrated that you end up leaving the relationship completely. (That’s if you don’t strangle him first.)
Discuss with your partner the idea about setting up a routine for all the jobs that need to be completed, like the housework, bill paying, the gardening etc..
After a while of sticking to this routine, you and your partner will form a new routine that in time will become like second nature to you both.
Don’t let frustration come from your fear of asking to put systems in place. Sometimes our own expectances can be much higher than what the other partner can deliver. Work together to make it happen.
Stay tuned for 4 more questions and 4 more exercises,